This article will be a quick one for me, this is just a quick mindset shift for the nice guys. Not my standard thousand word long explainers.
Why women hate nice guys is not actually because they hate men who are nice, but they hate men who are nice because their “niceness” is a way to get into their pants (agenda). Real niceness is non-needy and comes from a position of genuineness which does not require reciprocation.
To women your inauthenticity and intention as a “nice guy” is incredibly repulsive. It’s like a salesman coming over with a secret agenda, I’m sure you understand that feeling. You know and I know that he is here for the money, and all of it is just a facade for the show he is putting up so that he can get what he wants.
Just like you, you go over to the girl being all nice when she and you know for a fact that you are there for the sex. Thats why girls feel more comfortable around men who are taken because they know that he is not putting on a show.
Women are not stupid, they have been tricked before by these “nice guys.” In fact, so much so that most “nice men” are actually assholes who will treat her poorly after sex.
Okay, you might say, let’s become an asshole.
Well, not a good idea. Because assholes have the opposite problem where they can’t keep the girl to develop any sort of meaningful relationship even if they wanted to.
The real solution is to stop being a fake and phoney. Be authenthic and attract the girl that is meant for you. An asshole is a person who offends everyone. An authenthic person is polarizing and only offends an audience that is not meant for him. Learn both attraction (pickup) and relationship skills.
Before the nice guy strikes me down with Thors hammer, for me, a real nice guy practices the principles of love. See my post on that. I highly doubt that you are a legit nice guy.
That’s it for me. Best of luck. Please check out my other posts and practice everything holistically. Send me an email if you want a specific topic written.
Cheers,
FriendlyWrenChilling.com
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